The point of me making this post is: I don’t think Singaporean women would demand alot and they can be very sincere in relationships if they are given a chance to be part of a man’s life. I am 34 this year – I’ve met many nice Singaporean guys whom I can consider as good friends, but when comes to starting a relationship, they are not very proactive to express their feelings/interest to someone they like, and they tend to hold back, or is passive and cautious – somehow this makes them look elusive – Speaking from a perspective of a Singaporean, I am sure most singaporean women would prefer to marry local men but most of the time, they are left wondering if singaporean men prefer more choices (statistics show that the population of local women far exceeds local men in Singapore), or too choosy or ever ever feel ready for a relationship. Pardon me if I may not be on the same frequency with most of you here – but in reality, I have not been fortunate in my search for a local man. I think there are definitely a few or some singaporean women like myself out there waiting for a local man (who can be a good friend) to express their interest and love for them.

what can I say, they are bad or they are good or half way in between.

Btw I am in early 40. I am surprise that the younger generation guy are losing so much ground in term of knowing your lady. Perhap it is the comfortable life that they enjoy in having want they want that make them softy and some da nan ren.

I do agreed partially with SG ger about her comment on SG guy. To be fair this also apply to SG ger. With better education and earning power, they demand more and have higher expectation. which are both good and bad.

Courtship is like fishing. You must know when to pull and when to release. Pull too hard at the wrong time will break the line. Release too much and they will either run away or seek other ger attention. Most important is patient and hold the line with your heart and open line communication.

All I can say is that Singapore has a “tendency” to build guys in the more conservative, male-chauvinistic mode, but it doesn’t mean all are like that.

I’m single and looking for someone on the same frequency as me. The last guy I dated (the Kiwi I mentioned, hot and sensitive) almost hit the note, but he was insecure and had to have his own life first.

But I kept dating the wrong guy – who’s not looking for a serious relationship. I’m feeling a little old now, 29, and dated countless Singaporean and foreign guys, some older, some younger than me, but none serious about me, or secure enough to feel they can be in my life.

I guess I’m too ambitious and career-minded. I guess a guy for me would have to be confident, secure, and strong enough to accept that I’m not a typical Singaporean girl. And by secure, I mean he feels secure in his own person that he doesn’t have to prove to me that he is a man and can do a whole lot of things better than me; and will regard me as an equal. THAT, I find, is a quality very very hard to get in Singaporean guys, or any guy. The ones I’ve dated are either softies who can’t make up their minds, or chauvinistic guys who think they know better than me and criticise all my ambitions and dreams.

I guess it’s all a matter of luck and finding the right fit.

If I choose to be together I guess I only gt myself to blame for choosing and being so blind. So I can choose not to choose.

I personally feel relying on Man no longer exists in country like SG already. Or maybe it only happens for my circle of frds. Like I mention @ the beginning.. ANything I want.. Is not beyond my reach. To me being attached or not is no longer important as I can rely on myself.

But I got to agree with Peace sharing of the same goals and values is important. Thus 2 person can move in sync. Past experiences tell me differences in these lead to a lot of problems.

Anyway Peace u don’t have to feel offended. I didn’t say all SG guys are like what I mention above. Quote from my previous posting > Maybe u are one of those still left out there :LOL:

I’m merely saying most of the SG guys are too comfortable in their comfort zone. Not they are not nice.. I’ve seen a lot of nice guys but they juz too comfortable in their comfort zone. They are so nice tt sometimes I think I’m falling for them but I know things will not work out on because it’s impossible for 1 to be inside comfort zone n 1 outside comfort zone.

If they can move out of their comfort zone and start turning all their hopes into reality. No need guy go after gers.. I will definitely take initiative to go after the guy.

I have NEVER considered myself a “stereotypical Singaporean guy”, in fact, I do not know exactly how one looks like. At a young age, I travelled the world to get a glimpse of the world, to understand myself better. I have alot of friends who are foreigners and made friends with people from blue collared joes to high ranking executives. I have hardly done anything which is “stereotypically Singaporean”.

If ladies have much complaints about the men here, I guess its time for these people who complain to look inside themselve instead of blaming everyone else. I do get offended when ladies plays the “gender” card and tells me how jerky guys here are. Ok, your bad experience with your ex is one issue, do not link me up with everyone else. I get very offended when ladies do that in font of me. Work on yourself. Relying too much on men is a very conservative thoughtform for a country like Singapore.

I want someone who is able to be in sync with me, sharing the same goals and values, and not nitty picking on this and that.

With out own financial security we got last say ma…No? You be the gungho carrier woman he be the house husband taking care of the kids and parent-in-law lar…I mean this is only an idea. Not suggesting anything on action.

Quote ‘When people hear that someone is an engineer or doing IT, they would not be as open to meeting them as opposed to say bankers…’ Why? Is it because engineers and IT person are introvert or LOUSY communicator? Then choose Consulting engineers or IT consultant lor….