Singles with a BIG Heart

Last weekend was a hectic rush for me! Attended a girlfriend's wedding in KL (Malaysia), left at 10pm (after the 4th course is served), boarded the 11pm coach back to Singapore. I am used to this crazy rush. But this time was slightly different as Jamie and I brought babe with us. Luckily babe was very cooperative and was sleeping most of the time. Was really worried that babe was going to be one of the babies who will scream his head off and keep the whole bus awake… And, we arrived at about 5am! So why the mad rush? Well… it's because last Sunday… 30 of our members have volunteered their time to deliver goodies to needy families all around Singapore. So 15 guys, 15 gals in 15 cars were driving around the island delivering goodie bags! They are really heavy by the way! 🙂

When I first heard of the event, I was worried that I would not have enough time to gather enough people. We thought even if there were only 5 cars, we would be happy with the turnout. But turned out that we had an overwhelming response! At the end, we had 15 cars! 🙂   When the media heard of the event, they decided to cover it. Managed to catch some photos of our members being interviewed. 

This is a really meaningful charity project. If you would like to do your part, all you have to do is to drive into the Boys Brigade Headquarters at 105 Ganges Avenue, load some goodie bags into your car, and deliver them to the needy families. Their target is to deliver 100,000+ bags to about 50,000 needy families before Christmas. And, they still have a lot more bags waiting to be delivered. For more information, please visit http://www.bbsgb.org.sg/contact.html

Thank you in advance for your support! 🙂

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Violet Lim

VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Dating Singaporean Men…

Was with a group of Malaysians girls and guys the other day, dwelling on the topic of love and dating and with patriotism running high, the focus inevitably transcends to how Singaporean men are not very good daters.

It is quite sad really, because not only the Malaysians are complaining. The Singaporean girls themselves are complaining about the Singaporean men.

They are too weak. They are not chivalrous enough. They make poor conversationalists. They are not gentlemanly.

A buzz phrase you hear among single Singaporean women is, All the good Singaporean men are either attached, married or gay!

That got me thinking actually. By the way, before I proceed any further, let me just state at this point that I am Malaysian, with a Singaporean PR. And I love my adopted country as much as I love my home country.

Ok, as I was saying, all this talk got me thinking. Is it true that Singaporean men “cannot make it”? Or do they have other redeeming factors?

The truth is, when I was at university, many of my guy friends were Singaporeans. And I was actually quite impressed with them. And many of them are people whom I keep in touch till today.

So, here are some endearing qualities that I find in Singaporean men that I have met…

In the event of war, you are rest assured that they know how to use a gun. Yes, with the compulsory national service of 2 years, they undergo combat training. And to make sure their skills do not turn rusty, they go back every year for “reservist”.

You can always count on them to have tissue paper with them. I am one of those women who never carry tissue paper on me. I can always count on my Singaporean guy friends to have them. Very useful when you are eating katong laksa, and you need tissue to wipe your mouth.

Many of them can cook. I swear. They are fantastic cooks. My girlfriend and I went on a trip with 3 guys. And we did not need to do any cooking. This Singaporean guy prepared breakfast, lunch and dinner and it was absolutely delicious! I don’t know where they learn how to cook… maybe in the jungle while serving NS? 😉

They are really sweet and chivalrous actually. I had this friend who knew the weakling I am, and offered to accompany me to the supermarket whenever I ran out of groceries. He knew for sure I couldn’t carry so much stuff. So he camealong to help me carry stuff. Yeah, yeah, some of you might say that he probably had a crush on you or something. But, seriously, I don’t think so. Think he was just a very thoughtful and nice friend.

And last but not least, you have to respect the “camaraderie” and comradeship. Every Singaporean man would have a group of friends call their “army friends” or their “platoon mates” or their “BMT friends”. Once in a while, they would go out with the boys, and catch up on how they played tricks on each other, or their sergeant or their platoon commander. And when they do that, though I pretend to be bored… it always brings a smile to my face…

Singaporean men might not be as romantic as the French, as passionate as the Spanish, as suave as the Italian, as well-dressed as the Hong Kongers, as good-looking as the Japanese… but they are really quite dateable… once you have taken time to know them better and discover the hidden gems.

After all, I am a trusted authority as I married one. 😉

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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