Busy Workshop Weekend!

Wow, we are coming to the end of October. That was quick! I can still remember that the same time last month I was at the Big Apple! 🙂

Am feeling quite tired at the moment actually. This weekend is my Workshop Weekend! 🙂 I have been conducting Workshops on average about once every 2 months. Even though I am flat out, but I am happy. Am happy to be able to impart some of my knowledge and experience to people out there who are looking for their special someone. And the testimonials that I have received from the participants are definitely very encouraging and heartening. 🙂 Here are what some of them have written. 🙂

“I think Violet is very clear and practical in her presentation of the topic, and she also adds in generous dose of humour to lighten the mood. I also learned some interesting things about relationships that I never head about. The seminar made me realise that one must take a pro-active approach in kick-starting any dating process.”

“Having been out of the dating and relationship scene for so many years. his seminar is very informational and provided many insights to the things to look out for in order to be successful, pitfalls to avoid in the dating scene. Will definitely try to apply what I have learnt over the past 1.5 days and recommend this to my single friends.”

“Violet is a personable and warm coach who has practical examples of love and dating tips to share with all in her seminars. She firmly believes in dating and relationships for the busy career woman and her founding of ‘Lunch Actually’ is a valid testament to that ongoing belief. She is a positive dating coach and mentor to help anyone in any stage of their dating journey.”

“As this is my first seminar related to dating, with no other to compare, I feel that is has given me the inspiration to start the change within myself. Nobody has pointed out this before. Start working on myself, love myself then only the others will follow. Violet has given me motivation to go back dating. I will keep in mind and take action on what I learned.”

“Generally and personally, I feel that Violet has met all my expectations of this seminar and introduces me to many insights I will not learn from friends or books if (it has) not (been) spoken to me. These sessions help me see that a lot of time we can control and manage things which happen to us. We have choices of whether we want to be happy or unhappy and it just need a little bit more effort and time from my part. I’ll certainly relook into the material that was learnt in the 1.5 days and reflect upon and come up with action plans for myself. Thank you Violet.”

So even though, I only have had 3.5 hours sleep last night preparing for the seminar… it is definitely worth it! And I am looking forward to giving more of such seminars! If you are interested in attending my next seminar, please subscribe to my e-newsletter, or drop me a line using the ‘Contact’ page and I will keep you updated.

Think I better go to bed now… I need toothpicks to keep my eyes open! Will blog again soon!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Another Wedding… this time in KL, Malaysia! :)

Attended KL’s first wedding last week. We already have had quite a number of marriages in Singapore. But in KL, this is the first.

I feel very honoured to be invited these weddings. There are some couples who invite us. Some who invite their dating consultants. Some who come by to the office with gifts for us. And of course, some who never even tell us they are getting married. Haha!

I used to be quite disheartened by that. But I have started to accept that some people would rather not let others know that they have met through a dating agency. And perhaps, they are worried that if we know that they have met someone through us, and gotten married, we will hound them for testimonials, media interviews etc. And truth is, if they tell me no one time, I will respect their privacy.

Let’s come back to the KL couple. When they registered their marriage earlier this year, I was so happy. I do not know the lady client well, but I have spoken to the guy many times over the phone. And he is really one of the nicest clients I have met.

Then I asked him, “Hey, do you have any photos of the marriage registration?”

“Ya, of course.”

“Send me some la…!”

“Erm…”

“Aiyah, you think I am going to put on my website meh? No la, I just want to see and bask in your happiness la…”

“Oh ok ok, I email you now.”

Haha! Think our dating and matchmaking industry really must have a bad name… for people to be so weary and cautious.

Talking about this couple, I am really like SUPER happy for them. Especially because this guy is really so extremely nice. He’s polite to all the dating consultants, never rude or abusive. And he is so appreciative. At the wedding, I think he said thank you to me like for 5-6 times. So many times until I also feel paiseh (shy). When he met me at the door, when he showed me to my seat, when he came around for the wine-toasting, when he came around for photo-taking, when we (Jamie and I) were leaving… and he looks so grateful.

He kept saying, “Without you, there will be no wedding.”

OMG. That’s the biggest compliment someone can pay me.

I still remember my first phone conversation with him.

He told me. “Violet, you know, actually I am all set to get married. I have a car. I have a house. I have a stable career. But I just have not met the right one…”

My consultants and I helped him and give him some pointers here and there. And we could see that his progress with his dates are getting better and better.

One of my 3rd or 4th phone calls with him. I called him to check in.

And he said, “Violet, guess where am I now?”

“Where?”

“I am outside her house”

“What are you doing there? OMG, don’t tell me you are stalking her!”

“No la, she invited me home to have dinner with her family!”

“Wah!!! Well done… quite fast ha… think your first date was only a few weeks ago?

“Ya ya”

“Very good, very good! So how, what did you buy for her parents?”

“Ha? Must buy something ar?”

*FAINT*

“Of course la, if not go with empty hands? What kind of impression will you make?”

“Ok, ok… she’s not home yet, I will go buy something now…”

Think he eventually bought either some fruits or chocolate. 🙂

The funniest thing was… his then girlfriend now wife actually suspected that something was amissed. Because she knew him so well that she was shocked to see that he has bought something! Haha! So much later, he confessed to her that it was because he had this conversation with me! 🙂

When things are down. When I have a bad day at work. When I wake up on the wrong side of bed, wondering if all these are worth it. I will think of couples such as this one. Knowing that I have made a small difference in their lives. This is what makes everything worth it…!

To this wonderful couple, may your marriage be always blessed with love, joy and happiness…!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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2nd Wedding Celebration!

Having just got back from NY, with the jet lag etc., it’s been a long time since I woke up so early. Woke up at about 7am, and it’s wonderfully refreshing.

The conference was amazing! I met so many interesting people, learnt so much, my mind is still swirling from how I am going to put all these plans I have into place.

wedding-912s.jpgSince I got back, I have celebrated my 2nd wedding anniversary.

Our 2nd wedding anniversary was quite funny actually.

Hubby decided to search online for a romantic restaurant. You would think that we should have just used one of our affiliated restaurants, right? Anyway, hubby wanted to find something new. He went to a particular local site that features many restaurants where diners rate them, and found one that has superb ratings. It was rated as the best restaurant for dates. And hubby thought he probably has something there… so he made a reservation. Kept the place a secret. And told me what time to turn up at a nearby location, and brought me there. The name of the restaurant is pretty unique and has a ‘angelic’ twist to it. 🙂 And it is supposed to serve the best lamb shank in town. Hubby decided to go with the lamb shank, and I decided to go with the pasta. After sitting there for about 5 mins or so, we were starting to wonder, why it was rated as the best restaurant for romantic dates. The lighting was frankly slightly too bright. And, the place was not filled with couples, but families. Nevertheless, we await the lamb shank with great anticipation.

Which turned out to be a slight let down as it was too rubbery. The pasta was interesting. Instead of the usual tomato base, it was a pesto base.

We came to the conclusion that… either the diners who wrote the reviews are really young (so their yardstick for a romantic restaurant is different) or the raters were friends of the restaurant’s owner (which is understandable and forgivable). But nevertheless, we had a great time, as the company is good. 😉

After dinner, we went on to watch a movie, where I got to choose which movie we watched. Haha! Guys, don’t cringe. But we watched ‘The Nanny Diaries’. Which turned out to be quite a good show actually. Even hubby had to begrudgingly agree… hehe!

All in all, I had a really good outing with hubby. Hubby was quite funny actually… he said when I met him at 7.15pm, “I wanted to get you flowers… but I did not buy them early enough, and the shops are closed.” Trust hubby to be so candid and honest with it. Haha! And actually, I think that’s one of his most endearing qualities.

Thank you hubby for taking the time to plan our date night. Am looking forward to our 3rd, 4th…. 10th, 20th… 50th, 60th wedding anniversary celebration. 🙂

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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