Dreams do come true…

Dear Friends and Readers,

Meant to blog for the longest time… but just have not found the time and inspiration to…

As promised, to follow up on the last post, here is a photo of the papers.

newspaper

For those who do not know Chinese, it means, “Marriage agencies start a ‘black list’, the 4 types of blacklisted people revealed” I was seriously shocked to see this… and to appear for this subject matter was not something I have ever foreseen…

When I was a little girl, I always dreamt that perhaps one day, I would be featured on the newspapers.

I am in awe of the people whom I read about, people who have helped to change the world, people who created business empires, people who have been a great inspiration… people who have made a difference.

And I thought… wow… what if one day, I too can go out there and me an agent of change. I wonder what I needed to do to be featured on the newspapers.

I was in primary school then. A local newspaper has a weekly column for kids. And every week, they will have a certain theme… kids can send in their short essay or picture they drew. And if they feel that yours is good and/or unique, they will publish it. I will take part, week after week. And praying that perhaps next week, mine will be published.

I thought my heart will burst with pride when I saw my first ‘article’ published. I was so happy, jumping around, showing the newspaper to my dad and mum.

And as I grew older, I started to write longer articles to submit to the teens column. The feeling of seeing my name in print was so exhilirating that I considered being a journalist. And, to tell you a little secret, I did apply for an internship with a local newspaper. But, my journalistic dreams were shortlived as I was rejected. 🙂

Never in my wildest dreams I thought I will end up as a modern-day matchmaker. And as a result, by a twist of fate, my dream as a little girl did come true. It’s a very surreal feeling actually. Sometimes, I wonder if I am dreaming. 🙂

So like they say, keep the faith, dreams do come true… 🙂

Never stop dreaming…!

Love, Violet

P/S I am off to New York tomorrow, attending the Matchmakers Conference. I will try to blog when I am over there… meanwhile, take care!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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A Wake, a Front Cover and a Role Model

The last few days have been anything but uneventful.

On Sunday, I attended a wake. My uncle-in-law’s father has just passed away.

On Monday, I appeared on the front page of Lianhe Wanbao.

And, today (Tuesday), I met my role model – Anthony Robbins… for the second time. Well, technically, I did not meet him i.e. personally, but I was one of the 5000 people who attended his ‘Unlimited Power’ motivational seminar.

It is amazing how these 3 incidents are so unrelated, yet closely linked.

Let’s start off by talking about the wake.

Last Sunday was the first time I attended a Christian wake. Previously, the only wakes I have attended are of Buddhist and Taoist nature. Lots of chanting and praying. This time, it was actually a church service. We missed the beginning as we were not aware that there was actually a ‘service’. By the time we arrived, the Priest was already half way into his sermon. After his sermon, the Priest invited family members to give ‘testimonials’.

I have actually never met my uncle-in-law’s dad. I have heard of him now and then in snippets of our conversation, but I know nothing of this man whose wake I was then attending.

The first to speak was his daughter. She talked about her father… how he was a traditional father figure when she was a little girl. And how she eventually got to know him in her adulthood. She talked about his compassion for others, especially for the domestic workers in their home, as well as the less fortunates. And even on his death bed, his instructions were clear and simple. “Fuss-free funeral please. So that I do not create too much inconvenience for others.”

The second to speak was his grandson. In his speech, he brought his grandfather back to life. I could imagine what sort of grandfather he was. The type of grandfather that every grandchild would love to have. Doting and loving, and always with words of wisdom to impart.

By the end of the testimonials, I draw a simple but firm conclusion. This is a man who is extremely well-loved by his family, his staff and his friends. And without a doubt, he has lived a full and meaningful life.

It then struck me…

How would I want to be remembered? If I were able to attend my own wake or funeral, what sort of testimonials would I be pleased to hear?

Day and night, we toil. We work hard to achieve our goals and dreams. We want to achieve financial freedom. We strive to attain what we believe would give us happiness. We are chasing after a certain something, which we believe would give us that feeling of elation. And in the midst of it, we often overlook things that are important to us.

It was a rude wakeup call to me. I am chasing after so many goals, so many accomplishments. And sometimes at the expense of time with my family, time with my closest friends.

It forced me to think about my priorities. It forced me to stare hard at my schedule. It forced me to look deep within and ask some hard questions.

To tell you the truth, I do not have all the answers. But I am happy to have started the process of scrutinising my goals, my objectives and my priorities…

Yet, my goals have led me to places I never dreamt were possible. For example… the front page of a national daily…

(to be continued)

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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