If you were Susan, would you choose Mike or Ian?

Watched Desperate Housewives on TV last night. Hubby and I rarely watch TV nowadays, and one of the sitcoms that we watch is DH. 🙂

So, anyway on the episode yesterday, Susan had to make a decision.

Both Mike and Ian are as her daughter put it… madly in love with her. And, she loves both of them too. She fell in love with Ian when she thought Mike was in a coma. Now, she has to choose only one. At first, she chose Ian, because she made a promise to him. Ian was overjoyed. However, his happiness is shortlived. Because he heard Susan listening to a voice message left by Mike, bidding farewell. He could sense that Susan is still deeply in love with Mike.

He did what he felt was the honourable thing to do. He let her go.

He said, “I cannot stand the thought that every time you have the faraway look on your face, I will be wondering if you are thinking of him. Susan, you deserve to be happy. I deserve to be happy too.” And he packed up.

There are quite a lot of things that led up to this. Ian proposing to Susan when he found out that Mike intended to so before he lost his memory. Mike and Ian agreeing to bet in a game of poker… whoever who lost, will have to stop contacting Susan. Mike lost. But he broke the pact, he met up with Susan, grabbed her and kissed her. And hence reliving her memories about their time together.

There are 2 sides to this I guess… on one side, Mike really loves her, and hence could not give her up. On the other side, he is not exactly very honourable, as he broke the pact. Another question, if Mike really loves her, then shouldn’t he let her go? Because she probably will have a better life with Ian. Before Mike came barging back, and giving her that kiss, Susan was contented, and happily engaged to Ian.

And based on what has happened so far in the various episodes… Ian seems to be better for Susan… he is more matured and more stable. Mike on the other hand seems more like the ‘bad boy’.

If you are Susan… would you have chosen Mike or Ian?

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Accreditation for Singapore Dating Agencies

To ensure quality and professionalism, bona fide dating agencies in Singapore can now apply for the SDU (Singapore Development Unit) Trust Mark. Was at the press conference yesterday when MCYS (Ministry of Community Development, Youth & Sports) announced the accreditation framework together with SDU.

Starting from January next year, singles can look out for dating agencies with the SDU Trust Mark.

After being in the industry for 3.5 years, we welcome the accreditation with open arms as it will definitely help weed out fly by night operators which create a bad name for the industry as a whole. We are one of the 4 dating agencies that is in the pilot batch of accreditation. 🙂

Click on the following links for more info:

http://www.todayonline.com/articles/201197.asp

http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/singaporelocalnews/view/289187/1/.html

http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/singaporebusinessnews/view/289286/1/.html

http://www.xin.sg/article.php?article=7369&category=75

http://www.straitstimes.com/Singapore/Story/STIStory_140830.html

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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What are You Passionate About?

A couple of hours ago, I attended a concert with my dearest hubby.

I have not gone to Esplanade for a concert for like ages. I think the last time I went was 4 years ago, when I was still working with Citibank.

Anyway, the concert is organised jointly by the Rotary Club I belong to and Sailability Singapore to raise funds for the disabled. Frankly, I am not too into concerts – especially a concert by the name of ‘Sgt Pepper’. That is beside the point… As this is a charity concert… and I was there to support my club and the charity.

And guess what, I am so happy I went for it… as I definitely got a lot more than what I paid for…

When I was sitting there listening to all these amazing musicians showcasing their talents… some professionals, some amateurs… one thing stood out… their passion.

Their passion for their music… simply took my breath away.

When they sing, or they play their musical instrument of choice, you can just feel their passion through their music. Or for some, it is written evidently on their facial expressions. They so clearly enjoy expressing themselves through their music. And because of that passion, I fell in love with them instantly.

And it struck me that sometimes, as we busy ourselves in our career, or our day-to-day lives, we simply lose our passion in life, or for life.

One of the questions that we ask all our clients when they sign up is, “What are you passionate about?” And, quite a number of people would be dumbfounded.

When we lose our passion, we become listless. The lights go out from our eyes. We are not truly alive; we merely exist. And we probably do not come across as too attractive to most people.

I am sure deep inside each and every one of us, there is something that we are truly passionate and crazy about. It is just buried under the many layers of work, societal expectations, cultural expectations etc.

For some of us, it might be music. For others it might be travelling. Or even community service.

What is your passion? What keeps you awake at night? What gives you an instant surge of energy? What wakes you up in the morning? What can you not live without?

For me. It is the passion to inspire. To make a difference in people’s lives – be it through my writing or my speaking engagements. To know that I have the ability to touch someone else’s life, and the power of creating a ripple effect that would make a long-lasting change, that gives me immense satisfaction. 🙂

What is your passion?

If you cannot remember. Or if you don’t know. Maybe today is the day to rediscover your passion once more!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Blog Plug: Romance-Fire.com

wedding-blog.jpgThere are many websites out there that provide tips on wedding preparation, some are more relevant than others.

I have come across a wedding blog recently that is interesting, as well as ‘made localized’ for Singaporeans or Malaysians. Some of you might know the author of this blog too, as he is a frequent visitor of my blog. 🙂

Jhong Ren started his blog after seeing many of his friends needing wedding ideas and relationship advice while planning their weddings. His site has many ideas and checklists for newly engaged couples wondering how to go about planning for the big day!

In one of the posts, Jhong Ren shares 5 ways to understand your spouse better. If you are have recently gotten engaged and wondering what to do next, or if you have been assigned the role of bridesmaid or best man, and not sure what you can do to help the bride and groom… do visit this website. 🙂

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Running out of Romantic Ideas?

romancetracker.jpgCame across a really cool blog lately. It is entitled Romance Tracker, and the tagline of this blog is “Old-Fashioned Romantic Ideas for Modern Relationships”.

You might be thinking that it is another one of those blogs that offer really generic ideas about dating and relationships… ideas that are too “cliche”. No… this blog, authored by Phil Van Treuren is actually filled with very useful and insightful tips.

Phil is a professional writer, web designer, continuing education teacher and media and campaign consultant. And if you are wondering what makes Phil such an expert in this area? Phil’s objective is not to proclaim himself as an expert, as he believes that the real expert in any relationship is ‘you’! All he wants to achieve with his blog is to inspire you to make your relationship more interesting and exciting everyday by applying some of the romantic ideas that you can find on his blog! 🙂

Want to find out how to write poetry to impress your girlfriend/boyfriend? Or want to know when is a good time to say I love you for the first time? Not sure what to buy your girlfriend for her birthday? Or just wanting to learn to say I love you in 83 languages? You can find it all on this blog!

What are you waiting for? 🙂 Go check it out now!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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