Who would You Date: Banker, Pilot or Teacher?

Got a call from a journalist a few nights earlier about a story she was writing.

Apparently, there was a poll conducted in US, and the findings were… young women in US nowadays prefer men who are mid-earners rather than high-earners. Hence, some of the most sought after professions for a boyfriend are teachers and travel agents.

So, The New Paper decided to conduct a street survey to find out the trends in Singapore. They got 100 girls between age 18-25 to rank 10 different professions. And the profession that got ranked first the most is pilot, followed by banker. The professions that received the most votes overall are banker, followed by pilot and then teacher.

Read more the article here.

If you ask me, this is what I believe.

I think Singaporean women are a discerning lot. When choosing a husband, they do not only look only at the occupation that the person holds. More importantly, they are looking for a man who is motivated and determined, a man who is confident and carries himself well and a man of good character.

What do you think? Any experiences to share? If you a guy, do you feel that these professions are more sought after? Or if you a gal, do you have a preference for professions?

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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My Birthday Date

Today’s my birthday.

I am now 27 years old.

A dear friend messaged me today and said, “Happy Birthday! May you have a wonderful 27! Sensitive figure huh? :)”

I guess he has met many people who would prefer not to reveal their age by this point. Haha! I am not sure why, but I am very comfortable with the fact that I have grown yet another year older. And yes, approaching the big 30. 🙂

I feel that every year added to my age is something to be happy about. Maybe it could be due to the reason that people often think that I am older than my real age anyway. Haha!

Many people asked, “So, what did your hubby get you for birthday this year?”

My present is a “birthday date”! 🙂 A date planned by my dearest hubby.

We went into the office this morning, to roll mandarin oranges on the floor (Chinese tradition) and to give our team members angpows.

After that, we embarked on our date!

From our office, we took the MRT to City Hall, where we had lunch at one of our favourite restaurants Curry Favor owned by our friend Yee-wei. It’s a Japanese restaurant that serves Japanese curry, and it’s super yummy.

After a truly satisfying lunch, we crossed the road to SMU (Singapore Management University). For those of you who have never visited, you should make a trip there. It’s really quite impressive. All the various faculty buildings are linked by underground. It is definitely a far cry from my university campus at Manchester previously. Haha!

And weaving through SMU’s underground system, we approach our second destination, National Museum of Singapore. When we were students, we visited many museums in the various cities that we visited. So it is quite appropriate that since we are back in Singapore, we should visit the newly refurbished National Museum.

And boy, am I amazed! If you are expecting a museum full of artifacts, then you definitely have not visited THIS museum. Definitely a lot of thought have been put in to make it interesting and interactive. Once you enter, you are given a personal tour guide… what they call your ‘Companion’. Plug in your headset and you are ready to go. At every display, there are numbers that you can key into your ‘Companion’ and it will tell you the story behind the display. The ‘Companion’ can even play video on its screen.

My favourite part of the museum is that they give you a choice of information dissemination when you are going through the history of Singapore. You can take the Blue Path which documents the ‘Series of Events’, or you can take the Orange Path – which is the ‘Personal’ route – seeing history from the eyes of the many commoners. As I love stories, I chose the Orange Path! Since it is my birthday, dear hubby came along with me on the Orange Path as well. 🙂

I especially like the display about women then. They feature a socialite, 2 amahs (domestic workers from China), a performer, an advocate for women education rights and a 10-year old girl who receives her report card every term. It is amazing to see how far women have come in the last few decades.

We would have stayed longer in the museum, but we have a 3rd destination to go. And that is Cathay Cineplex. As parents of an infant, we hardly get a chance to go for a movie date. The movie that we wanted to watch is Dreamgirls. However, we did not expect the movie to be a sold out. So we ended up watching Half Nelson. Haha! We should have guessed that it’s one of those arty-farty shows, when it is to be shown at ‘The Picturehouse’.

I ended falling asleep halfway through the show. Oops! Well, only for about 5 minutes. Probably because I was too tired from looking after the babe last night. ;) It’s not so bad as the show progresses along.

As I told hubby, at least when we look back, we can say that ‘Hey, that year on your birthday where we watched that show and you fell asleep!’ Haha! 🙂

After the movie, we made our way back home to see our babe.

All in all, thanks to my hubby, it was definitely a wonderful birthday! 🙂

For those of you thinking of what to do for your girlfriends/wives for their birthday, you can copy our ‘Birthday Date’, we will charge you no copyright fee. 😉

P/S Last but not least, thank you to all my wonderful friends and relatives who emalied, SMSed me and sent me e-cards. Am really touched that you all remembered. 🙂

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Ms Matchmaker wishes you ‘Happy Valentine’s Day!’

Busy busy busy!

Dream date campaign has been a success so far, having been featured in Straits Times, Channel News Asia, Channel 5, Shin Min etc.

Just wanted to drop a quick note to wish all my dear readers, “Happy Valentine’s Day!” 🙂 Wondering what Ms. Matchmaker will be doing on V-Day? Hubby has indicated that he will be preparing dinner for 2. Let’s see what he cooks up! 🙂

For those of you have been participating in my polls, you would be glad to see that I have just come up with a new survey – Who is your Ideal Man?But this time round, ladies only need answer. Ladies, go cast your vote! Don’t worry guys, the next one will be for you. 😉

As for the results on the last poll on who should pay for the first dates… more than 70% of the 115 people polled said the guys should pay. So guys, you get the hint… if you do not want to appear ‘cheapo’, please pick up the tab.

For listeners of Capital 95.8FM, I will be having a date with resident DJ Jiabiao and Mediacorp artist Moses Lim on air from 6.20pm to 7.00pm today. Do tune in if you can. 🙂

That’s all for now! Be back with more updates soon!

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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Mr. Motivated & Ms. Self-Improvement

Ok, my dear readers, this is the ‘Best Match’ story that I promised you.

Have been keeping this story under wraps, as the press article just came out today, hence did not want to ‘upstage it’.

Not sure how long the article will be up for, so do go check it out, as this is the first time a LUNCH Actually couple has agreed to appear in the media. Even though we know of about 60 couples who have met through us, they are usually quite media shy. 🙂

About Mr. Motivated & Ms. Self-Improvement, one thing about their profiles that really stand out is how driven they both are. They both believe in self-growth and are constantly improving themselves. Another obvious commonality is that they both love to travel.

Jamie and I sat in at the media interview. It was a very interesting session as we do not get many chances like this to hear what happens after that first date. Yes, we get feedback from them e.g. they go out on second dates, or that they get engaged, or even married, but we do not usually get to know the nuances and details.

This time, we get to hear the entire story – from when they first met, how he misplaced her number, to when they decided to go steady, and what they like most about each other. It is very heartwarming actually.

Theirs was not a ‘love at first sight’ story. They got to know each other better as friends before deciding to go steady. They also continued to date other people before dating exclusively. In her own words, she said “I wasn’t particularly interested in him at first!” But, he obviously won her over. 🙂

It was just so sweet looking at them sitting side-by-side, relating their love story. And the best thing is, you know that this is one love story that is grounded, a relationship that is not built on ‘instant chemistry’ but has withstood the test of time where they got to know each other better as friends before dating exclusively.

It is so obvious that they have so much respect for each other. He is impressed by her hard work and determination, and she is clearly inspired by his drive and motivation. And when he looks at her, you know that this is definitely a man in love! :) 

And, I just cannot stop telling them how happy I am for them. 🙂

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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My Dream Date

Hello my dear readers…

If you have been wondering what I have been busy with for the past couple of weeks, THIS is what I have been working on… 🙂

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Presenting ‘My Dream Date’. If you are single and above 21 years old, visit LUNCH Actually website now! Contest runs from today till 21 Feb.

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VIOLET LIM is a real-life modern matchmaker who has founded Asia's leading lunch dating company Lunch Actually (www.lunchactually.com). Violet is the bestselling author of the dating book 'Lessons From 15,000 First Dates'. She is also an acknowledged dating and relationship expert who has been featured on more than 1000 media coverage including ABC News 20/20, Bloomberg, CNBC Asia, CNN Go, Channel News Asia, USA Today, TV Tokyo and Singapore’s National Day Video 2005 as one of Singapore’s most aspiring people. Violet is happily married to her university sweetheart Jamie and they have two young children.

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