QQ,QA #7: About Being Hurt

“How can you love like you’ve never been hurt before if the pain of losing someone you love is unbearable?”

dance.jpgWhen I read the above question, it reminds me of the following verse. It is from this particular story, and it is also one of my girlfriend’s life motto…

“Work like you don’t need money,

Love like you’ve never been hurt,

And dance like no one’s watching.”

I remember some well meaning elders told me, “Find a husband who will love you more than you love him. Do not give everything, so you will never get hurt.”

When I am in a relationship, I believe in giving my all. I know, might not be the smartest thing to do sometimes. Especially after I come of a relationship that does not work out, I wonder if I can truly love again. But somehow, as time goes by, and when I meet the right guy, I will give it my best shot.

Because I believe in this. Be it in relationship, work, or life in general. If you give it your everything, and if it does not work out, you know you have tried your best. But it you know deep down you have held back, you will always look back and regret not ‘trying a bit harder’. And then, there will be that BIG ‘what if’.

Life is too short to have to live with ‘what ifs’.

Yes, losing someone is difficult. Losing someone is sometimes so unbearable that you do not want to live anymore.

But if we do not give it our best shot, we might never find love again.

*** This is the final installment of Quick Questions, Quick Answers (QQ,QA). Thank you to all for your support and comments. 🙂 As per my first post on QQ,QA, the person who post most comments will be given a special prize. I believe the winner is Carol. 🙂 Carol, please email me your address at violet@violetlim.com and I will mail you your prize.

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8 thoughts on “QQ,QA #7: About Being Hurt

  1. Hmmm, so far i haven been into my 2nd relationship yet since my first one, so I didnt know whether will I withhold my love for my future bf or will I give it my best shot after being hurt before.

    But, now, till today, although im being hurt rather deeply for giving all my love before, im proud to say that even it doesnt work out, at least i have no regrets as i have tried my best and its’ him that doesnt appreciate the relationship that we have had and the fault is not on me.

    So, I too always believe that no matter what things you are doing, be sure to give it your very best shot. You will never know what’s the outcome is till you have tried. Yes, sometimes.. it does take lots of courage and hard work and your land yourself in a very fragile position.. but in the end, you wont have any regrets..

    I hope and promise myself, I will give my best shot when the times and the right person comes along..


  2. Hi Harro,
    Thanks for listing my site. We are not related, but we are friends. 🙂 Lunch Actually took on some of Two to Tango’s members when the latter folded beginning of last year. Both she and her sis are very nice people, very ethical too, did not just leave their clients in the lurch.

    Hi Carol,
    Jiayou! 🙂


  3. Hi Joey,
    Welcome to my blog! 🙂 Yes, I agree. Saying and doing is definitely 2 different things. But if we never at least try, we will never know. 🙂


  4. I’d been hurt real bad before and vowed never to allow myself to get hurt again by giving my all to someone new. Yet, when I started seeing someone new, I gave my all to him and in the end, I still get burnt a little. We’re still together, but I find myself withholding many parts of me because of the fear that has a firm hold of me now. I hope this fear will diminish soon because I really do not want fear to rule my life.


  5. Hi Piggy,
    I would like to congratulate you on realizing and acknowledging that fear exists in you, and it is stopping you from moving forward. What would it take for you to let go of this fear?

    Is it by sharing your fears with your boyfriend and allowing him to give you the assurance? Or is it by having closure with your ex-boyfriend? Or is it something else?

    If the answer does not come to you today, don’t worry. Take your time, and find within yourself what you could do to expel this fear from your life.

    Take care, and all the best!



  6. Hi Violet
    I guess it’s all fated…today, I bought the Sunday-NewPaper & saw this upcoming “Bedazzled” event in SG on Feb 14. So I went to browse on this website & now I’m reading your blogs. It’s all very interesting & motivational.
    I’ve been hurtly lately. And I’ve been trying very hard to move on. On reading your blogs, it actually does help me in moving forward, a little bit more faster.

    Great Blogs You Have there…



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