“How can you trust someone completely again when you have been hurt before?”
First and foremost, HAPPY NEW YEAR! To my dear readers, may the year of 2007 bring you great joy and happiness, and most importantly love! 🙂
I am taking so long to finish the series of QQ,QA! *sheepish smile*And actually, I have skipped QQ,QA #7 as I do not have any inspiration to write on that topic yet. Will get back to it once I have thought of something to write on the topic.
I had 2 previous relationships prior to meeting J. When those 2 relationships came to an end, I was so hurt, that I thought that I will never love nor trust again. Especially after the first relationship where my ex cheated on me.
It is difficult no doubt. I think I became quite a paranoid person after that. I always wondered if my boyfriend isÂ cheating on me. And it also affected my initial relationship with J. Even though he did nothing for me to doubt him, it was just so difficult to trust another man. A tiny voice at the back of my mind keeps saying, “Why do you think he would be any different?” Some of the things that I did, or said then… now I think back, I can’t believe that that was actually me!
I think it helped that J was so patient with me. And over the years, I have learnt to trust again.
Last week, I met a lady who is in her late 40s. Her story is a sad one, though not an uncommon one.
She and her fiance dated for about 8 years, and they have plans to get married. Actually, it was more than a plan, they have in fact put down a deposit for the wedding dinner. Soon after, her fiance was posted to China for anÂ a job assignment. She would have gone with him, but unfortunately, she has just signed a contract for a job locally. And… I guess, you can figure out the rest of the story.
Yes, he met someone in China, someone younger.
He came back to break up with her. Well, I guess you can say that at least he had the decency to do that.
And, what can she do? What is there left to be said?
She trusted him.
In fact, she’s so sure that the history that they have built up over the past 8 years would withstand the lures and temptations that he would face in a foreign land.
She told me that she’s completely shattered. She tookÂ a longÂ time to pick up the pieces, and move on.
And, despite being hurt so deeply.
She’s ready to love again.
Hence, to answer the question… “How can you trust someone completely again after you have been hurt before?”
Well, as they say… time will heal all wounds. Sometimes it takes weeks, sometimes it takes months, and sometimes it takes years. But somehow, when you meet the right person, he or she will make you learn to trust again. And sometimes, it is just all about attitude, like the strong lady that I met last week. Despite being hurt so deeply, she has decided to take an enormous leap of faith, to love again.Share on Facebook