Met up with our uni friends K & S the other day for dinner. They too have recently been ‘promoted’ to parents. Hence, it is inevitable that the topic slowly steered towards mummyhood, and about bringing the baby out.

I was saying that I was getting more used to babe’s crying. As in, no matter what you do sometimes, they will cry, as it is their only way of communication. I no longer panic when I hear him cry.

Well of course there is the problem of people around you i.e. when you are in public, will look at you, thinking how come your baby is just crying and crying and you seem to be not doing anything about it.

K then said something that I thought was quite funny actually…

“Tell them… I am not a bad mother, she’s a bad baby!”

Sometimes, the problem is… we “over” take responsibility. Yes, we should always see if we are the one in the wrong, or if we are the one who should make changes to our attitude or mindset. As the saying goes, “For things to change, I must change first”.

However, in some situations, the truth is, the problem really does not lie with us. Even in relationships. We have to know where to draw the line. When a problem arises, the problem is not always you, it could be the other party as well.

Haha! It’s interesting to see things from a different perspective isn’t it? I have written so much about taking responsibility for our own actions, being accountable for what we do etc. But sometimes, we just have to take a step back, and look at the lighter side of things!

It is just like saying… “I am not a bad girlfriend, he’s a bad boyfriend”, or “I am not a bad wife, he’s a bad husband”…

Don’t overburden yourself with what you think is your fault, because sometimes, maybe it is really not you.

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