Comments on: QQ,QA #5: About Love http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/ A Modern-Day Matchmaker's Views on Dating, Matchmaking, Relationship, Love & Life Mon, 07 Jan 2013 17:14:09 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Violet http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-7045 Violet Sat, 04 Nov 2006 03:53:48 +0000 http://violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/#comment-7045 Hi Carol, Thanks for your comment! :) It's true, we often know best. And as you say, by searching within ourselves, we will know the truth. Guess the problem is sometimes, we might be in denial. We want so much to see something, that we will ourselves to see it even though it is not there... Anyway, that's another topic altogether... something I can explore in another blog entry. :) Hi Carol,

Thanks for your comment! :) It’s true, we often know best. And as you say, by searching within ourselves, we will know the truth. Guess the problem is sometimes, we might be in denial. We want so much to see something, that we will ourselves to see it even though it is not there… Anyway, that’s another topic altogether… something I can explore in another blog entry. :)

]]> By: carol http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6793 carol Tue, 31 Oct 2006 23:50:52 +0000 http://violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/#comment-6793 Yes, most girls do love to hear those 3 words. If you have asked me that particular question 2 years ago, I'll have said.. i will prefer to hear it every now and then and even will ask for an answer. But if you have ask me now, I'll say.. Nope. Action does speak louder than words. Saying it once a while when the moments right or just felt like it (voluntarily) is more true and sincere rather than being prompt by a question. Sometimes, what you actually felt is more true than asking your partner for the words that you wanted to hear as he/she will tend to says it for the sake of pleasing you. My opinion, search the bottom of your heart for the answer, for you yourself knows better. As time goes by, 6th senses and guts feeling will always lead you to the most sincere answer that you are seeking from your partner. Guys, please says it only when you truly mean it. Yes, most girls do love to hear those 3 words. If you have asked me that particular question 2 years ago, I’ll have said.. i will prefer to hear it every now and then and even will ask for an answer. But if you have ask me now, I’ll say.. Nope. Action does speak louder than words. Saying it once a while when the moments right or just felt like it (voluntarily) is more true and sincere rather than being prompt by a question.

Sometimes, what you actually felt is more true than asking your partner for the words that you wanted to hear as he/she will tend to says it for the sake of pleasing you.

My opinion, search the bottom of your heart for the answer, for you yourself knows better. As time goes by, 6th senses and guts feeling will always lead you to the most sincere answer that you are seeking from your partner.

Guys, please says it only when you truly mean it.

]]> By: Sharon http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6791 Sharon Tue, 31 Oct 2006 15:10:56 +0000 http://violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/#comment-6791 Hi, I totally understand what you are saying. In fact I think the same. As a woman, I believe in being happy with 'AS AT'. The real meaning is to focus at 'NOW'. In every relationship, especially earlier part, is filled with strong emotions and attraction. Most people then raise doubts in the relationship and forgot about enjoying the moment. Love is a very funny thing, it is subjected to change. I don't believe that if we leave 'Love' as it is, it will stay the same forever. I think that if one really love a man, one will endeavour to adjust own's expectations without losing dignity and respect. <strong><em>Violet: Hi Sharon! Welcome to my blog! :) I like the point that you raised... enjoying the moment. I think that is very important... it's true, sometimes we are so caught up with things, that we forget to just enjoy the process, the moment... and yes, love involves work too... it's not as if you can just stay stagnant, and expect it to stay still. Love is a commitment I believe. :)</em></strong> Hi,

I totally understand what you are saying. In fact I think the same. As a woman, I believe in being happy with ‘AS AT’. The real meaning is to focus at ‘NOW’. In every relationship, especially earlier part, is filled with strong emotions and attraction. Most people then raise doubts in the relationship and forgot about enjoying the moment.

Love is a very funny thing, it is subjected to change. I don’t believe that if we leave ‘Love’ as it is, it will stay the same forever. I think that if one really love a man, one will endeavour to adjust own’s expectations without losing dignity and respect.

Violet: Hi Sharon! Welcome to my blog! :) I like the point that you raised… enjoying the moment. I think that is very important… it’s true, sometimes we are so caught up with things, that we forget to just enjoy the process, the moment… and yes, love involves work too… it’s not as if you can just stay stagnant, and expect it to stay still. Love is a commitment I believe. :)

]]> By: snglguy http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6769 snglguy Mon, 30 Oct 2006 23:10:39 +0000 http://violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/#comment-6769 My theory on women who makes such a big fuss about hearing those 3 words every single day from their spouses is that they suffer from some form of inferiority complex. Either that or they just don't trust their husbands enough... Hi Violet, how's everything? Sorry for the long absence, I just got my connection back yesterday after being disconnected for a month. <strong><em>Violet: Hi Rudy! Welcome back...! Haha... with regards to your theory... hmm, I guess it works for some and it does not work for others... everybody just has to find something that work for them as a couple... :) Glad to see you back...! My stomach is super big now, can't wait to see my little babe!</em></strong> My theory on women who makes such a big fuss about hearing those 3 words every single day from their spouses is that they suffer from some form of inferiority complex. Either that or they just don’t trust their husbands enough…

Hi Violet, how’s everything? Sorry for the long absence, I just got my connection back yesterday after being disconnected for a month.

Violet: Hi Rudy! Welcome back…! Haha… with regards to your theory… hmm, I guess it works for some and it does not work for others… everybody just has to find something that work for them as a couple… :) Glad to see you back…! My stomach is super big now, can’t wait to see my little babe!

]]> By: Single gal http://www.violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/comment-page-1/#comment-6760 Single gal Mon, 30 Oct 2006 17:23:00 +0000 http://violetlim.com/2006/10/30/qqqa-5-about-love/#comment-6760 Hi there Violet ! Though this may not be relevant to the question u have asked, just wanna ask u to include more of the Best Matches or Worst Matches in your blog because I really enjoyed reading them. I have been reading ur blog for quite sometime and found your blog was quite an eye opener to me ! Anyway, keep up the good work ! I look forward to more true-life "stories" in the near future yah ? <strong><em>Violet: Hi Single gal, thanks for commenting... welcome to my blog! :) Hope you like the new series of 'Made in Heaven' as well... will be writing more about my best and worst matches then... have a great weekend! :)</em></strong> Hi there Violet ! Though this may not be relevant to the question u have asked, just wanna ask u to include more of the Best Matches or Worst Matches in your blog because I really enjoyed reading them. I have been reading ur blog for quite sometime and found your blog was quite an eye opener to me !

Anyway, keep up the good work ! I look forward to more true-life “stories” in the near future yah ?

Violet: Hi Single gal, thanks for commenting… welcome to my blog! :) Hope you like the new series of ‘Made in Heaven’ as well… will be writing more about my best and worst matches then… have a great weekend! :)

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