The Looks Department


Met up with an university friend Y last weekend. He was quite excited to know that we are in the dating business. He was like, “Hey! Find me a date-la!”

Jamie commented, “Sure, no problem, just sign up as a member, and we will start to find you matches!””Hmm… for you ar, looks must be very important!” Jamie added.Y said, “Aiyah, whatever it is, looks still matter what!”

In this day and age, we soak ourselves in the celebrity culture everyday. No matter where you look, you are constantly bombarded by beautiful people – actors, actresses, models. If you look fatter, or your nose is not as sharp, or your eyes are not as large – you worry that you are as ‘sellable’ as your model-looking friend. Hence, slimming centres and beauty salons are mushrooming – as there’s such a huge demand for their services.

In my line of work… “Oh, Amanda was a great date. She’s funny, she’s intelligent, and we had lots to talk about. We have a lot in common as well. She enjoys travelling too, and she has been to many of the countries I have visited. We exchanged lots of stories.” “Well, as for whether I will ask her out again, I am not so sure really. She’s nice, but erm… I don’t think she’s my type.” “Perhaps you could get me someone who scores higher in the looks department?” And Amanda is not ugly or anything. She’s average looking – like most ladies who walk down Raffles Place (Singapore’s Central Business District)!

Question – Are these guys looking for a soulmate or are they looking for another piece of accessory? Well, of course, not all ladies are angels too. But there’s another blog entry altogether…

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5 thoughts on “The Looks Department

  1. There is no doubt that for some of us, no looks is a no go. We would all be guilty of a lie if we claimed that looks do not matter and are not considered when looking for a partner. As Miss Match mentions, there are endless beauty salons and slimming centres thriving on our desire to be more desirable.

    But perhaps I can offer a thought – I have to put my hands up and say that until recently, I was guilty of being a die hard iPodian (I bought an iPod cos I thought it was cute….oh come on – you know it is!). I didn’t want to shop around and test out other MP3 players, I wanted an iPod cos it came in this sexy, sleek package, it’s a great accessory to have, and everyone else thinks it’s cute too.

    I still have my iPod, but I’m finding that the battery sometimes lets me down, and it’s not as easy to move/share songs as with other MP3 players. Fellow iPodians have told me that theirs have simply died altogether – one day it was playing, the next it was just a white (or pink/blue/green!) brick. One non-Ipodian said, “Why not the iRiver? It’s a little bulkier, but it’s not ugly. The battery hasn’t let me down yet and I can move my songs easily to and from it to share.”

    You know where this is going. Whilst our friend Y dismissed Amanda basically cos he wanted something cuter, there is cause for a second date at least. Perhaps you didn’t think someone was good-looking on the first date, but people can BECOME good-looking. You will find that when you get to know someone better, you start seeing them differently. You may find that you love the sound of their voice, and look forward to their clever conversation. You may find that when you get closer, they smell really really nice, and when you’ve had a long, hard day, their laughter lifts you up.

    There is something to be said about a good-looker, there is more to be said about a beautiful person. I say give Amanda a second chance and you might find other wonderful things about her that you didn’t see before. And I’ll let you know if the iRiver is any good!


  2. Shuwen, thanks for the really insightful point – about iPod and iRiver!

    I was thinking about mp3s players by Creative as well. They are really value for money. For the same price that you pay for iPod, you can get a lot more bells and whistles if you bought a Creative player.

    But – if people were to think about mp3 players – an iPod will come to mind, and not a iRiver or a Creative one.

    It has a lot to do with branding i think. And how the brand makes you feel. A friend was telling me – for example – a bag is a bag, but when it is a LV, it makes you more confident somehow.

    Let’s hope that one day we will all be self-assured enough to no longer have the need to boost our own egos with brands and/or trophy girlfriends/boyfriends.


  3. In my honest and most personal opinion, I think those who say looks don’t matter are downright liars. 🙂 BUT I feel that looks are subjective to individuals, what may look good to u, might not to others and vice-versa. Thus u have consumers for both the Ipod and iRiver. 😉


  4. Hi Audrey – good to see you here! 🙂 I think that’s a valid point.

    However, I think the problem exists when nothing matters but looks. It does not matter that your date is not ugly, he/she is actually quite good-looking, but not a supermodel of course. And despite the fact, both of you got along really well…

    But some people are not willing to get past the first date just based on that.


  5. That’s too bad that some ppl can’t past the looks. I do admit i like looking at cute guys, but sometimes I get hte feeling that they KNOW that they are good looking, so their ego is inflated and they don’t come and talk to you. And some of them, you just can’t get a good conversation out of them.

    Like I got a new laptop bag (I don’t actually have a laptop, I might get one later on, but now I am using it as a business bag) while I was in NY for cheap, 20 bucks. It’s cute (fushia color!), simple design which I prefer, and couldn’t be happier with another one. I know other bags cost 5 to 10 times more, but I feel just as cool with this one. May be if I can find a guy like this in the same sense, I’ll be set?


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